Preventive Maintenance

Over the years, my father and uncle taught me that a little preventative maintenance can go a long way with automobiles. Change the oil, check the fluids, keep the tires correctly inflated & rotated, replace the spark plugs, change the air filter. This past weekend I changed the rotors and brake pads on our Toyota van–a relatively easy do-it-yourself task. But if I allow any of these things to slide, very costly or even irreparable damage will, no doubt, result.


We usually drive our vehicles until the wheels break off, pushing upwards of 200K to 250K miles. So when it comes to cars, I’m convinced that little things matter. As I was brainstorming blog post ideas this weekend, it occurred to me that the same could be said about our relationships: the small stuff can hold off a lot of potential sweat and tears.

So below are a few things I like to do with my wife and kids to keep our relationship running like a well-oiled machine. Don’t get me wrong: I’ve never won the Husband or the Father-of-the-Year award, and I probably never will. But I didn’t just fall off the turnip truck either–this isn’t rocket science!

  • Kiss your wife goodbye every morning.
  • Open the door for her.
  • Write a thank-you note or love note.
  • Surprise with a gift or flowers.
  • Do a few chores around the house.
  • Take your son fishing, hunting or work on the car together.
  • Go shopping with your daughter.
  • Text your kids and tell them you love them.
  • Establish some simple family traditions.
  • Take your wife or daughter on a date.
  • Brag on one of your family members.
  • Eat meals together, and say a prayer.
  • Attend church EVERY Sunday with your family.
  • This may seem like a lot, but most of these are pretty simple and can become routine. What about you? What preventive maintenance do you practice with your relationships?

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    7 Responses to Preventive Maintenance

    1. Ron Purvis says:

      Great article and tips Scott! Tis sad to see families not do the preventative maintenance and then are “surprised” when the family “breaks down” on the road of life.

    2. Well said Scott. Opening the door for your wife is great gesture to show of respect, and it’s one I still incorporate after nearly 10 years of marriage. I also take notice when other men don’t do it. This one small act speaks volumes. In addition, we still keep Friday nights as our weekly date night.

    3. Mia Anstine says:

      Great post Scott. I hope we can get more people to realize the importance of these simple deeds. As you said “It’s not rocket science”. So why don’t the go ahead and get to it?! 😀

      • Thanks, Mia! Yea, I think some people make the mistake of wanting to be too elaborate. If they aren’t doing the simple things, maybe they think they have to do a few big things to compensate.

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